CONFUSION....

Is CONFUSION just a state of mind??? naaahh i don think..or could it be?aaah...watever...

Just when you think life is perfect, something that would once be written off as inconsequential turns up and makes u rethink...everySINGLE time...
During childhood, the points-of-contact for confusion centred around trivial issues like chocolate,ice cream selection, tv progs, homework, tests so on...Adult phase saw a melange of confusions, its so vast that i do not even wanna attempt channelising it.. time ticked by, ushering in the 20's with it...
Just when you think, you ve been thru it all, and now ur mature enough to handle anything, life smirks at you yet again..life,relationships,career and relationships again on a different level.. and ur attitude...

I fail to understand my own state of mind.Thoughts run haywire and refuse to fade away. Tryin' to probe within doesn't seem to help an iota. Confusion just seems to dominate....! will it ever end????
CONFUSION..N MORE CONFUSION..!its just a fusion of thoughts running amok....

The sequel - an eye opener!

I know I am guilty of making a sweeping statement by combining chivalry and chauvinism together. It is rather apt that the two start with the same alphabet, yet have vastly different meanings and in today’s society, women *and to a larger extent, men* do not tolerate chauvinism. We have learnt to accept that women are equal to men in everything. Sure, they are different in terms of physical attributes, but the buck stops there. The rest of the supposed differences are merely a societal perception on women/men that have been filtered down through the generations

If women want to be treated as equals to men, why is there a cry for chivalrous behavior? Door opening, offering of seats, etc. these actions may be a symbolism of a man submitting to the fact that the woman needs help, but it can also be interpreted on a deeper level. One such interpretation may be the fact that the man subconsciously admits to the fact that the woman is weaker than he is, and thus requires his help and effort to help the woman overcome whatever that he is doing for her. Like opening and holding a door for her. Empirically, isn’t this an acknowledgement that one is weaker than the other?
A man too may require people to hold the door for him when his hands are full or maybe he does not have enough strength. But, these somehow become his shortcomings. A lady on the other hand, has doors opened for her even though she may not be stuffed with shopping bags or a box of files. What was her shortcoming? Was it because she was carrying shopping bags, or was it because she’s a lady and that’s the right thing to do?
Let us consider a bus scenario. A person can be chivalrous and offer the seat to the lady, or offer it to her due to kindness and goodwill. Maybe the lady looked faint?? Or maybe she was pregnant.
To sum up a long story, my question to women folk is this. do you girls want to be treated equally? or differently?
Just remember, WHAT YOU GIVE, YOU GET!!
A common fallacy among men and women is that chivalry is one-sided, which means that a woman can also take the initiative and do something chivalrous or be HIVALROUS for her man, especially since the times have changed.

To all you ladies out there, how HIVALROUS are you?? Do a quick scan and check if you do any of the following to make your guy feel your worthy of him…

• He opens the car door for you and you unlock his door once you are inside
• You offer to split the bill at the fancy restaurant you went to for dinner (or even better, you pay for it once in a while -- if you don't pay for it, you pays for his movie ticket after dinner)
• You surprise your hero with that CD he has been talking about or send him flowers at work.
• You take over some soup/hot coffee or the like when he is feeling under the weather.

More than anything else, show how appreciative you are of his actions and recognize how lucky you are to be with him!So guys/boys, do you think SHE IS WORTH IT??!
GENDER didn’t weed out expectations, did it??? So, don’t just sit waiting to be swooned over LADIES… You can do it tooo….

As chivalry now means being kind to everyone, the best thing to do is just be yourself. Act normal, and don't try to be too chivalrous or the woman you're pining over will see right through your act. The truth is, if she isn't appreciative, then she's probably not someone you'll want to invest your time in. If you like her, then you will automatically put her on a pedestal without realizing it. And once she's on that pedestal as high as the castle tower -- where you are the only one to rescue her -- she will look out for the knight in shining armor in you.

This Valentine's Day, bestow upon her a very special gift: your consideration, your benevolence, your not acting like an ass. And yes, you still hold the door
happily ever afters exist after all and i do hope all of you get there...!
Hail HIVALRY!!